There are some people who cannot remain single, they jump from on relationship to another even if it’s not a healthy or aligned with what they envision, this is due to their inner child is starving for love, appreciation, validation as they didn’t receive it from their caregiver when they were a child.
They experienced a rocky childhood and come from a dysfunctional family.
To be able to have a healthy relationship aka healthy love, it starts with us meaning healing our childhood wound and creating a secure relationship with ourselves to be able to set boundaries to not be abused and taken advantage of while dating. Understand your inner child unmet needs and be compassionate towards yourself to be able to date from a secure a place to not get hooked to the first person who will give you attention.
When dating someone, don’t get attached to the fantasy of what that person could be in the future or to the potential but rather of who they are (How they treat you, how reliable they are, their values & moral compass, are they offering tangible support…)
During the early stage of dating and getting to know them, don’t invite them over or go to their place as you are more likely going to be giving in and emotionally bond with them – especially for women- before you get to know them in a deeper level.
Avoid texting back and forth all day, sharing every second of your life, small talks… Quality people have an active life and don’t have time to messaging all day every day. Especially during early stage of dating, texting should be kept planning dates & quick check up & meeting in person is the way to go to build an emotional connection.
