Over the years couples encounter many difficulties and obligations that may lead them to lose the spark & excitement, therefore there are no more dates, quality time or intimacy.
Rekindling a relationship is possible when both parties are genuinely committed to do so and here are some tips on how to go about it:
- Plan at least one date per week: When was the last time you have been out on date with your partner? Last week? Last month? Last year? Or you can’t even recall? It’s time to plan a date of your liking that you will both enjoy at least once a week.
- Connect with your partner: To keep the relationship alive connecting with your partner in an emotional level is crucial, talking about your future goals & how to achieve them, understanding each other love language & perspective.
- Compassion & Empathy: They are important to connect as a couple when you bring up an issue that occurred between you too, you both are open to listen with an open heart and compassion to understand how a situation made you feel. By creating a safe space, it will make both of you feel seen & heard as a result it brings closeness between you two.
- Work as a team: Couples that happy and fulfiller are emotionally intelligent & healthy, they have done the inner work and see their partner as their teammate, not as an opponent. They create the relationship they want together and don’t rely solely on their partner to put in the effort, they go from wanting to making it happen. For instance, what could you do to make your partner feel safe? what can you avoid to not repeat the same cycle? What are you willing to compromise on for the sake of the relationship?
- Grow together: As I have mentioned in my previous article, people grow and change over time and as couple you should grow together instead of apart which create the disconnect between you two. You can find a new hobby that you both enjoy, show interest on your partner hobbies, explore new places together, elevate each other, celebrate each other success….