Dating in today’s world can be confusing, frustrating & draining and most of the time people seek for dating tips on to how to look or behave first before focusing and resolving more important matters that will help them to elevate and attract the kind of person they want.
The number one is to know yourself meaning knowing what triggers you, your attachement style, your shortcomings, any toxic patterns, any unresolved traumas from your past / childhood that may impact your relationship with others. It’s very crutial to be aware of them to work on yourself & level up to have a healthy relationship.
For instance, If you have an anxious attachment style, you become needy, anxious, people pleaser when dealing with others. You value other people’s opinion of you over what you truly think about yourself, you try to do anything to impress others to like you and validate you over being genuinely yourself to connect with others with the mindset of “what you see is what you get. Take it or leave it”.
Keep in mind, healthy people are looking for a partner not a project. Therefore it’s very important to have your life together like if you have mental health issues, health issues, family issues or any kind of major issues that may impact your future relationship, you better off solve them before dragging someone else into them and get caught up in a toxic cycle and end up heartbroken.
We mentioned the importance of leveling up and getting your life together because you attract what you are meaning attracting people at your level in terms of the lifestyle, values & principles, beliefs system, political stand, hobbies etc…. and helps you to avoid low quality dates/people and higher chance to meet people you are more compatible with.
A combination of compatibility along with chemistry is the healthiest kind of relationship because there is an emotional connection (chemistry) and an alignment in terms of values / lifestyle.
In contrast with relationships where there is chemistry but not compatibility is most likely a recipe to a disaster (toxicity) or where there is compatibility but no chemistry, it might become dull.
